We already miss the big welcoming smile and the beautiful laugh of Arvin Clyde “Jim” Teschner, 92, of Stuart, Florida and East Boothbay, Maine. He died on December 9, 2021 at his Florida home with loved ones nearby.
Arvin was born on January 5, 1929 in Newton, Massachusetts to Pauline and Edward Teschner. He grew up in a loving, rambunctious home of five boys during the Great Depression. Values of honesty, hard work and kindness were instilled at an early age and laced with laughter and humor.
When he was 12, Arvin began working summers at a Caddy Camp in Woods Hole, earning 35 cents per golf bag and sometimes carrying four bags for a round of golf. His work ethic was such that he never turned down a job and was the top earner of the summer.
Arvin, also known as Jim, was an athletic, co-captain of the Newton High School soccer team, captain of the golf team, and a varsity basketball player. He went on to play football for Brown University until he was sidelined with a serious knee injury. Through ROTC, caddy and cafeteria work, he managed to study at Brown and graduated with a BA in Mathematics.
After graduating in 1950, “Jimmy” married his beautiful and fun lover, Patricia (Patty Burt) Teschner. Their relationship started when he pulled her braids in elementary school. They had two children, Jennifer and Stephen, and created a home of love, friends and laughter. Fifty-eight years later, they were still holding hands.
Within weeks of their marriage, Jim was called to serve as an officer in the Marine Corps in the Korean War. His mates from the Marine Corps became lifelong friends.
After military service, Jim accepted a position at SOHIO in Columbus, Ohio. They were frequently promoted and lived in five Ohio cities. After BP became a subsidiary of SOHIO, Jim completed a successful career as a retail manager for the East Coast. He always said that he felt that he had been lucky enough to work with many wonderful people throughout his career.
Missing their Maine and Massachusetts roots, Patty and Jim wanted a sense of permanent residence. They bought a summer cottage in East Boothbay, Maine, in the late 1970s. They loved being in Maine and considered it one of the most beautiful places in the world. They created beautiful gardens around the house and Jim even designed an architectural plan to convert the cottage into a year-round home. With the skills of master builder and friend Rendall Hyson, that dream was realized. They welcomed their grandchildren and many friends from afar with lobster feasts and drove past Ocean Point, which they called the Ooo-Ah Tour. Patty and Jim loved dogs and Jim could often be seen with their tired pup the last leg of an Ocean Point walk.
In 2004, a pulmonary embolism took Stephen’s life and four years later, when he was nearly 80, Jim’s lover died.
Jim was lucky enough to have another chance at a big love affair with Barbara Sullivan. Together they shared more than ten happy years of bridge, golf, culinary delights, travel and hosting extended family. During these years, Jim enjoyed the new addition of great-grandchildren and helped build a “Pirate Ship Float” for the Ocean Point Horribles Parade and referees slap jack and croquet games.
Arvin will be remembered as a truly good man who was kind, honorable, generous, humble and fun. It is said that at the end of your life the only question that matters is “How much have you loved?” Arvin loved others dearly and will always be dearly loved by family and many close friends.
He is survived by Barbara Sullivan; brother Allen (Connie) Teschner; daughter Jennifer Teschner; son-in-law Joe Tafelski; daughter-in-law Senta (Teschner) Cassell; grandchildren Michael Tafelski, Kathleen Tafelski, Jake Teschner Cassell, and Carolyn Teschner Cassell; honorary granddaughter Anne Mellen; and great-grandchildren Miles and Theo Tafelski.
He was predeceased by his wife Patricia Teschner; son Stephen Teschner; parents Pauline and Edward Teschner; brothers and sisters-in-law Edward and Kathy Teschner, Douglass Teschner and Bette Teschner Zeller, Philip and Hannah Teschner; sister-in-law and brother-in-law Phyllis Morton and Ashley Burt; and Janet McKenzie.
A farewell and memorial service will be held on July 9, 2022 at the Wilson Memorial Chapel at Ocean Point.
Those who wish to honor Arvin can pass on an act of kindness and/or a good story to make others laugh.